Happy Valentine’s Day everyone! I published this article last year. It is a hard one for me to face to this day.
I hope everyone gets to celebrate with someone special today. I will be with my special someone as well. Elizabeth, we have been together for nearly 14 years and married for over 10 years now.
In 2013 Elizabeth was pregnant with our second child, our daughter. Around 6 months in Elizabeth had terrible headaches and we found that she had a brain tumor. She had brain surgery while pregnant with our daughter. Helaina came into the world 8 weeks early and had to stay in the special care nursery at Barnes-Jewish Hospital. Elizabeth got one week off before starting her first cancer treatment, Chemo and Radiation.
She has battled Glioblastoma Stage IV for nearly 4 years and recently took a turn for the worse. We wont get to go out to dinner or anything romantic, but I will still get to be with her.
We have had some financial issues over the past few years and if you’d like to help, please donate or share GoFundMe.com/GoElizabeth
I wanted to do something special, so I picked out a few songs. These are songs, when I hear them, she comes to mind immediately.
Elizabeth, I love you and these are for you…
Evanescence – My Immortal
I get emotional every single time I hear My Immortal. It really takes me to a very dark place in my life and reminds me that Elizabeth was always there for no matter what. In the end, it took her leaving me to make me heal from my mother’s death.
She has stuck with me, no matter the challenge. When I wanted to become a comic writer, work on websites. Elizabeth has always had my back. She chose me over others in my times of need.
She has held my hand through all of these tough years, she has been on my right every day. No matter how dark my world could get, her smile, her hand on my cheek would change everything.
Muse – Madness
Sometimes, our world has felt so crazy and when things got though, I would look at her and simply say, “madness”. We would share a laugh, knowing how rough life has been and how many obstacles we have passed…We always made it, no matter the odds. If I can describe our love in one word, it would be…Madness. Our love conqured all, our love for each other guided us through the darkness into the light. When she first took my hand I knew we were in for a wild ride…Madness
Now, I have finally seen the light…I have finally realized what you need…
John Williams – Across the Stars
As many of you know, I am an avid Star Wars fan, unhealthy love for the films, books, games and comics. When Elizabeth and I met we were driving around in my car listening to a mixed CD. We decided to go to Jack n the Box resruant for some late night food and as we waited in the drive thru, Across the Stars came played. I looked at her, she was 22, and so beautiful. I remember what I was thinking, that moment…I love her…Then it came out, I told her that I love her…she smiled and put her hand on my face and told me…”I know”. We kissed and she told me that she loves me too.
On September 16, 2006 we were married and after the vows were said we walked together as a married couple to Across the Stars. I could not have been happier.
Foo Fighters – Everlong
We have always had an “us against the world” type of feeling while we have been together. There are people who did not want to see us together, but we put on our blinders and lived our lives.
There are some lyrics in the song that hit me hard. The entire song itself, we don’t really relate to, but…
<blockquote>If everything could ever feel this real forever
If anything could ever be this good again
The only thing I’ll ever ask of you
You’ve got to promise not to stop when I say when</blockquote>
And I wonder…
Maroon 5 – Secret
In 2004, I lost my mother. We were very close, and losing her took me to a very dark place. Unfortunately, Elizabeth and I were in a fresh relationship and I couldn’t be there for her, the way I should have. I was not myself. I possibly ruined any chances of some people liking me and may have forever stained their perception of me.
2005, Elizabeth broke my heart and broke up with me. But, it was the smart play. It was just what I needed to kick myself out of the funk I was in. We ended up secretly getting back together. She kept it from her parents, because they did not like me or her with me.
She loved that it was a secret and introduced this Maroon 5 song to me and it kind of spiced things up. When I here this one, I am transported back to a time of us sneaking around together. Meeting in secret was, well sexy. The only people who knew, were Elizabeth and I.
Incubus – Dig
We would listen to a lot of Incubus together. We traveled so much before the kids were born and Incubus was the best medicine.
The song is about finding the better part of someone when they are showing their worst. Elizabeth always saw the good in me and brought out the best in me.
We all have something that digs at us,
At least we dig each other</blockquote>
These lyrics stick with me and hurt so bad.
<blockquote>Remind me that we’ll always have each other
When everything else is gone.
Hoobastank – the Reason
Ok, Hoobastank…lets deal with that for a moment. No the best band ever, but this song explains what Elizabeth has always been to me…She is the reason for me. The reason, every single day I want to be the best man I can be for her, for the children…Still makes me weep.
I never meant to hurt Elizabeth before we broke up…but she helped make me the man I am today. She became my reason to crawl out of the darkness and see there is so much more in the world than darkness…I am not a perfect person…
I’m not a perfect person
There’s many thing I wish I didn’t do
But I continue learning
I never meant to do those things to you
And so I have to say before I go
That I just want you to knowI’ve found a reason for me
To change who I used to be
A reason to start over new
And the reason is youI’m sorry that I hurt you
It’s something I must live with everyday
And all the pain I put you through
I wish I could take it all away
And be the one who catches all your tears
That’s why I need you to hear
My heart is breaking every single day. I watch her slip away…I don’t know if I can even express the way I feel to anyone. My wife, Elizabeth Marek has brain cancer and I have so much hope, but I am terrified of what may be coming. My life would be incomplete without her. She has been my everything for 14 years.
I wish I could just take her pain away, give it to myself. I’d rather suffer than watch her do it. Life is not fair and for this to be happening to Elizabeth and not me, it just is not fair. We are supposed to fight this world together…Me and Elizabeth against all odds.
I have said it before. If you have someone special…love them, love them hard. You never know how long it will last. Love them…
Elizabeth…you still have all of me…I love you…I miss you so much